Saturday, 8 June 2013

Focus On What Really Matters!

My dad, my sister, and the baby is me!

Now that is one happy Fay!

So a few weeks back, I had what I thought was a bad driving lesson. I was really pissed off with myself, and I don't even know why because when I look back, I didn't really do anything wrong. And I have done worse things before on my driving lesson and not been annoyed... So I think I was just having a bad day! Anyway, so I text my instructor saying how annoyed I was, and she replied "You just have to learn not to worry about the small stuff and focus on what really matters" Okay. So I know this is just about driving, but I think I have permission to take this advice onto more areas of my life other than driving! 
I am a worrier. 

And the thing is, it is over the stupid stuff!
 In some situations, I am the most laid back person ever and I see other people getting stressed and I think to myself "Why are you getting stressed and upset about something you can't change/control?" But for some reason, I don't take this outlook everywhere with me. And considering I haven't really known my driving instructor very long, she knows I am a worrier and I only see her 1 hour every week! I

I know some people think I see the world as a bed of roses and I am far too innocent for real life. But unfortunate stuff has happened in my life, I am aware that not everyone I am going to meet in my is going to be nice. Trust me, I have met a few dicks!
But I don't want these people to discourage my outlook on life! I want to think there are good people in this world, I don't want to grow bitter because of other people.
So with everyone I meet, and who I grow close to, I will love and care about until proven not to! Now I know this could seem naive... but I can't help it!

But I've been thinking (never good) and it is so important to just sit back and realise what really matters in your life! I think it can be easy to get caught up in silly things that to you may seem the end of the world, but in perspective, doesn't really matter! 

For example, my driving test. I was scared and don't get be wrong on the day I'm sure every part of my body will be like jelly and I'll be clutching onto my driving instructor for dear life. But then I think, why am I going to get myself so worked up about the test? So what if I fail, it's just a test and I'll do it again until I pass. End of.
(I hope to be reminded of this when I am a nervous wreck on the day!)

I don't know what is going in your life, but I know we all have something we worry about! But as long as you have family, friends, someone to talk to, I think you are pretty fortunate.

"Some people are so poor, all they have is money"

I think it is so important to make an effort with people you care about, and also strangers! It is so easy to just give a smile at someone, or hold open the door for someone, or say thank you to the person who stopped in their car to let you cross the road. Politeness is so important I think, and it is so easy!

Don't take stuff too seriously! I love people who are down to earth, say it how it is, and has a good heart. I love me a  bit of "banter" and being cheeky!

Also, remember to not only make an effort with other people, but don't neglect yourself! It's okay to think "I look pretty alright today!" Or "I actually quite like this dress on me"
Accept compliments!
You got given the body you have, so instead of being an arse hole to it, be nice!
Easier said than done I know, but put on the dress that makes you feel good, buy the shoes you've seen in the shop AND WEAR THEM!
Life's too short to worry what others will think, if you are happy, then F everyone else!

On my last day of college, there was a questionnaire and everyone was filling it in.
A question said "What do you hope to achieve in your life?"
What a huge question to answer.
And me being me, wrote in capital letters "HAPPINESS!!"
And handed the paper back and left lol!
I don't bloody know what I want from life, who really does at the grand age of 18 (what I was at the time)
I feel like there is a lot of pressure on people to know what they want to do in life, and I have no bloody clue! 

I don't really know where I am going with this blogpost if I'm honest, but contrary to popular belief, I am quite a level headed, open minded person. It doesn't always show because sometimes I just want to have a laugh and be silly! I am only 19 and I know some people see that as an adult, which of course technically is, but people my age are having babies and getting married!!
HUH? Let's slow down people!
 I don't think I'm ready for that! 
I don't think I should be ready for that!

I am totally straying off topic here.. there is always so much going on in my head it's hard to keep up with myself! 

But to round this blogpost up.. basically...
Don't stress over the small stuff, don't dwell on stuff that has happened in the past, don't hold grudges and be happy!
And I am not writing this from experience, I am writing this on advice on which I also need to take!

Have a lovely day!!

(This post has taken me so long I am going to be late for work... hehe)


  1. Hey!
    I love your blog and so I've also nominated you for the Liebster Award! :)


  2. This post was great thank you so much for the advice I am also a worrier and I'm going to take up on your advice to help me, I love your blog xx


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